Welcome to the Law Office of John Volz

Supreme Court

Practicing law as an attorney in the greater Los angeles Area since 1989.

Specializing in:

Family Law
Estate Planning
Personal Injury
Prenuptual Agreements
Domestic Partnerships

The Volz Divorce Philosophy

I have a philosophy about divorce cases.  “Family law” has that name for a reason.  In other areas of law, the parties file their actions and go to court to get a final resolution.  However, in most family law cases where children are involved, the parties will necessarily continue to be in each other’s lives as co-parents of their children.  It is my belief that in these cases, the attorney should always strive to help the parents find a way to separate peacefully, and establish rules and boundaries that will enable them to continue to be parents of their children and interact with the best interests of the children in mind.

Dealing with a divorce is a daunting task indeed. Once you place children into the equation, the situation becomes even more difficult to handle for people who barely know what to do themselves. The following rules should help you focus on what you should do when you spend time with your children, both during and after the divorce process.

Remain Positive

Whatever you do, try your best not to let your children see you fall apart, even if that’s what you want to do most. Children don’t understand the complexities of adult relationships and emotions, so there’s no need to burden them with emotions they can’t handle. Do your best to keep things on a positive note; they are no doubt trying to do the same for you.

Donít Discuss the Details

Again, there’s no reason to discuss the divorce with your children, especially if they don’t ask you about it. Never talk negatively about your spouse and remember that your children still love them as much as they love you. You should focus on the time you have together and answer any questions they may have as neutrally and briefly as possible. There’s no need to burden them with extra information that may change their perceptions of either party.

Enjoy Your Time Together

When you have your children, make the time you spend together quality time. Do fun activities that help you all bond and work together as a team. Donít let negative emotions get in the way or prevent you from doing things as a family. Sure, things wonít be the way they used to be, but that doesnít mean that you need to give up either.

Donít Change Parenting Habits

More than during any other time, your children need you to be consistent with them. Donít be afraid to punish them; they still require discipline. Be the same parent you have always been and do your best to make sure that you and your ex are still on the same page regarding routines and punishments. Just because your relationship is over doesnít mean your childrenís needs should fall to the wayside.

Be Accessible and Available for Your Children

No matter what, you want your children to know that you are going to be there for them when they need you. Donít make things out to be worse than they are; no matter what, you will always be their parent. This time in your childrenísí lives can have a huge impact on their future, so you want to let them know that you are there for them whenever they need you.